It’s easy to lie low, hide in the shadows, hang back in the LDS Singles scene. I’ve been pretty good at for a very long time. Like over a decade. You rack up quite a few perceptions and quite a few observations about being single in an LDS world. I’m not bitter about any of that. I’m resolved and accepting of the circumstances which led to my singleness. I’m actually grateful for what the journey has taught me. My experience is unique to me.
My only frustration is that “single” category in the church puts me in a 31+ group with incredible diversity. Its just soooo broad. And there are a lot of us. Sometimes the only thing we have in common is that we are “LDS singles”.
There are people who have never married. People who have lost spouses to death. Then, there’s the whole spectrum of us that are divorced throughout a myriad range of stages in our marriages, and for a hundred different reasons. Each one of us has a story. Each one of us has a lesson or two learned. Each one of us has uniquely passed through many stages and hopefully many of us have found that ”all things shall work together for your good, if ye walk uprightly.” (D&C 90:4)
We are hopefully emerging from our unique experiences with a new perspective. It’s a grand, soul-stretching process. Hopefully it is teaching all of us wisdom and allowing us to grow past and into our new circumstances. Ultimately, the prize is joy.
As I look around the web, there are not too many places for us to find community and perspective within our circumstances of being single. That’s frustrating. It’s intimidating. And…well, its a little bit challenging too. Hopefully we can change that here.