I’m realizing that I like the way I think. It’s a practice I’ve chosen into and cultivated for the past decade. I look back on how I used to think and it is painful to be aware of just how limited it was then. But I like it now. I feel so grateful for the process. It was defining and now is the basis from how I operate in my life. But why does that matter? Why blog about the way I think? So as I look at potential LDS singles and dating companions…well, how they think is pretty darn important to me now.
What I have learned now that I am maturing is this whole wonderful dance between agency, thought, the power of choice, the power of moving the thought forward and feeling the energy that flows. I’m completely attracted to people that can do the same. It feels like “visionary” on a whole new level.
Whining about circumstances, clinging to non-helpful cultural and personal beliefs like I did in the past—and yes, even in my difficult marriage of 17 years—is just not helpful. If you want something different, then change the way you are thinking about it and make it happen. That’s where the magic of the experience lies. And I dare say, the magic of relationships. Whatever type they are.
I’m interested in what you’ve given up to move forward.
What did you learn? Leave a comment and tell me your story.